When someone asks me on a podcast how synchronicity actually shows up in business decisions, I tend to smile a little — because the people asking that question have usually already lived through it more than once, and they’re quietly checking to see if I’ll honour what they noticed, or explain it away. You’ve done the work. You’ve read enough to know that “coincidence” is a thin word for what you’ve been experiencing. And yet, when it comes to running your business, something still feels uncertain — like you’re not quite sure how much weight to give the signal you keep picking up. That hesitation isn’t a flaw. It’s the sound of someone who’s been burned by spiritual bypass before and is trying not to do it again.

So let me answer the question the way I’d answer it across a microphone, with one real story underneath it.

The form synchronicity actually takes

In my experience, synchronicity in business almost never arrives as a thunderclap. It arrives as a small, repeated tap. The same name surfaces three times in a week. A book you didn’t order ends up in your inbox the morning you were about to send a difficult email. A client cancels at the exact hour you needed to rest. The phrase you’ve been quietly turning over in your head shows up in a stranger’s caption.

None of these are instructions. They’re more like punctuation. They mark a sentence the universe is helping you finish writing — but you’re still the one writing it.

What I’ve noticed, working with conscious entrepreneurs who carry adverse childhood experiences, is that we tend to do one of two things with these taps. We either over-read them — turning every small coincidence into a binding command, because somewhere underneath there’s a child who learned to scan the environment for the “right answer” so she didn’t get in trouble. Or we under-read them — dismissing every signal as wishful thinking, because somewhere underneath there’s a part that learned trust was unsafe. Both responses are nervous-system shaped. Neither is a character flaw.

One concrete example

A few years ago I was sitting with a decision about whether to step out of a partnership that had been good to me but had quietly stopped fitting. The numbers said stay. The logic said stay. My calendar said stay. And yet I kept noticing something strange — every time I sat down to work on the partnership material, my body went heavy. Not anxious. Heavy. Like a lead blanket across my chest.

Over a stretch of about three weeks, a few things happened that I couldn’t quite ignore. A mentor I hadn’t spoken to in a year emailed me, out of nowhere, with a single line: “Are you still doing the thing that no longer wants to be done?” A book I’d ordered months earlier finally arrived, and the first page I opened was about misaligned commitments. A client, in passing, asked me a question about the partnership that I couldn’t answer honestly without flinching.

Three taps. Not a thunderclap.

I didn’t act on any one of them. What I did was sit with the pattern, and notice that my body, my work, and my environment were all pointing in the same direction — and that direction was not where my logic was pointing. So I gave myself a week of slower decision-making. I checked whether the heaviness was old fear (which sometimes wears the costume of intuition) or genuine misalignment. I let the question rest somewhere beneath my ribs instead of in my head.

A week later, the answer was quiet and clear. I stepped out. The income dipped briefly. The impact deepened almost immediately. I tell you that not as a clean victory lap, but because the dip mattered too — synchronicity doesn’t promise a smooth runway. It just tends to point at what’s true.

Why the discernment piece matters so much

Here’s where this gets honest. For someone with ACE patterning, the line between intuition and a trauma response can be very thin. A “no” in the body can be wisdom. It can also be an old protective contraction firing because something looks like something that once hurt you. The work isn’t to pick one interpretation and force it. The work is to slow down enough to tell them apart.

I look at three things, in this order:

  • Pattern, not single event. One coincidence is just a coincidence. Three of them clustered around the same question is information worth examining.
  • Body quality. A regulated “yes” or “no” feels grounded and quiet. A dysregulated “no” feels urgent, narrow, and panicked. They’re different signals, and learning the difference is part of what it means to have a nervous system that’s ready for success.
  • Direction. Synchronicity tends to point toward something a little bigger than your current version of yourself. Fear tends to point toward shrinking. If the “signal” is telling you to hide, charge less, and disappear — that’s often a brake, not guidance.

How I use this in actual decisions

In practice, I treat synchronicity as one input among several. Not the only one, and not nothing. It sits alongside data, alongside body wisdom, alongside the quieter feedback from my own honest reflection. When all of those start pointing in the same direction, I move. When they disagree, I wait.

This is also why I don’t recommend making a major business decision on the strength of one striking coincidence alone. The people who get into trouble with this work are usually the ones who treated a single sign as a binding contract — and then felt betrayed when the path got hard. Synchronicity is a yes from the universe to a question you are still responsible for asking and answering. It doesn’t outsource your agency. It companions it.

If you want to go deeper into how the inner and outer layers of decision-making actually fit together, the Three Pillars map I work from holds all of this — the economic, the psychological, and the spiritual — as one integrated system rather than three competing voices. And if you’ve ever wondered whether your hesitation is wisdom or a wound, this piece on telling the difference between a psychological, somatic, and spiritual block sits very close to today’s question.

If you want to keep going

If any of this lands for you, and you’d like to be around other conscious entrepreneurs who take both the business and the signals seriously — without bypass, without cynicism, without pressure — you’re welcome to come and sit with us inside the Miracles For Me Skool community. It’s the room I built for the conversations I most wanted to be in.

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