The Moment He Realized He Was Lonely in Community
She had been in the community for four months before anything real happened.
She showed up consistently — in the calls, in the forum, in the live sessions. She contributed thoughtfully. She answered questions from a place of genuine knowledge. The community received her well.
She was still lonely.
The loneliness had a specific quality that she had begun to recognize. It wasn’t the loneliness of not being present — she was present, reliably. It wasn’t the loneliness of not being valued — the responses to her contributions were warm and genuine.
It was the loneliness of not being fully there. Of giving from the expert position while the person who needed something stayed behind the performance.
One afternoon, in a live call, someone asked a question that was close enough to what she was actually dealing with that she stopped formulating an expert answer.
Instead she said: “I’m actually navigating something similar right now, and I don’t have it figured out.”
The room shifted. People moved toward her differently. The responses came from peers, not students.
After the call, someone messaged her directly: “That thing you said — me too.”
She wrote in her journal that evening: I’ve been in this community giving but not here. Today I was here.
It was a small moment. Barely noticeable from the outside. But the nervous system registered something it hadn’t registered in the previous four months: being genuinely received, not for what she offered, but for what she was actually experiencing.
That was the beginning of the community doing what community is actually for.
The daily practice builds the capacity for exactly this kind of presence.
The Abundance GPS Skool community is the context where this presence becomes possible.
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