Belief Inquiry Applied to Boundaries and Difficult Conversations
Behind every persistent pattern of boundary avoidance or conflict aversion, there is a belief. Usually more than one — and usually one that has…
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Behind every persistent pattern of boundary avoidance or conflict aversion, there is a belief. Usually more than one — and usually one that has…
The concept of somatic regulation sounds technical. What it means, in lived experience, is much simpler and much more important: your body needs to…
You’ve done the inner child work. Maybe you’ve read about it, journaled through it, or sat with a practitioner who walked you through it.…
You have done enough work to know that the difficulty you have with limits and hard conversations has roots that go back further than…
You have probably used visualisation for other areas of your life — for goals, for healing, for clarity of direction. And something about applying…
You’ve been collecting insights. You know the pattern. You have had the realisation — sometimes more than once — about why boundaries are hard…
You know what you want to say. And you know why you don’t say it. That’s the honest place to start: you have enough…
You have probably heard the phrase “mindset work” more times than you can count. Maybe you’ve rolled your eyes at it. Not because you…
You’ve read the books. You know the language of healthy boundaries. You can articulate the difference between a porous boundary and a rigid wall.…
You have done the reading. Maybe even the therapy. You understand, intellectually, why boundaries matter and why difficult conversations are part of a healthy…
You have worked on your boundaries. You have said the script. You have maybe even held a few limits that would have been impossible…
You have done enough inner work to know that what happens in your body during a difficult conversation is not random. The chest tightening.…