An Identity-Level Approach to Boundaries and Difficult Conversations
There is a pattern that appears in coaches and healers specifically: they can hold limits with everyone except the people who matter most to…
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There is a pattern that appears in coaches and healers specifically: they can hold limits with everyone except the people who matter most to…
Most approaches to limits and difficult conversations start from the mind — what to say, how to frame it, what position to hold. The…
You’ve done the inner work. You understand why limits matter. You know the theory of the nervous system — the dorsal collapse when you…
If you work in the healing space, you likely know more about somatic theory than most people you interact with. You understand nervous system…
For coaches and healers, the pattern around limits tends to be layered in a specific way. The helping orientation that drew you to this…
The challenge with limits and difficult conversations isn’t usually knowing that they matter. Most people who’ve done deep inner work know, at an intellectual…
If you’ve worked on your limits and still find yourself folding under pressure, cancelling the conversation again, or saying yes when every part of…
The GPS+I framework — Goal, Problem, Solutions, Integration — was developed as a four-week transformation coaching cycle. But it applies equally well as a…
The most effective techniques for limits and difficult conversations are not about perfecting what to say. They are about creating the internal conditions under…
The morning has more influence on how you handle difficult relational moments than any individual technique you apply in the moment. The quality of…
There is a level of the work around limits and difficult conversations that most frameworks don’t reach. Not because they’re wrong, but because they’re…
There is a category of difficulty with limits and difficult conversations that doesn’t get talked about nearly enough: not the struggle to hold a…