Twenty years of field notes.

Most approaches to partner and family dynamics address the behavioral layer well and the belief layer reasonably. Three other layers are consistently underaddressed.

The first exploration addressed what awareness changes in the general relationship to the pattern. This exploration addresses the specific skills of awareness that make…

Between approaches that produce lasting change and those that produce temporary relief or insight without transformation, certain specific differences consistently appear.

Most work on partner and family dynamics produces genuine insight and some genuine behavioral change. What it rarely produces — and what prevents the…

The first exploration addressed the language we use to describe the pattern and the work. This exploration addresses the language of the relational interactions…

Every persistent pattern in human behavior is protecting something. Understanding what the partner and family dynamics pattern is protecting gives you a different relationship…

The first exploration addressed the ACE research and its implications at the population level. This exploration addresses the specific ways that early adversity shapes…

The first exploration established what the somatic dimension is and why it matters. This exploration addresses specific somatic practices for working with partner and…

The first exploration addressed what the childhood origin tells us and what its limitations are for the work. This exploration addresses how to work…

The accommodation and limit-holding difficulty in partner and family dynamics is, at its origin, a survival strategy. Working with the pattern effectively requires a…

The first exploration established the basic nervous system framework for understanding relational patterns. This exploration addresses the practical implications of the nervous system lens…

The first exploration addressed the structure of relational identity and how it maintains the pattern. This exploration addresses how identity actually shifts through the…