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The research on relational patterns — attachment, nervous system regulation, family systems, interpersonal neurobiology — converges on several findings that contradict common assumptions.
Most approaches to relational patterns address the behavioral layer and, sometimes, the belief layer. But there’s a layer beneath both that most approaches don’t…
Relational patterns feel intensely personal in a way that other challenges don’t. Understanding why clarifies both the difficulty and the path through it.
The standard narrative about where relational patterns come from is incomplete in important ways. Here’s what the complete account includes.
The visible features of partner and family dynamics — the accommodation, the avoidance, the reactivity, the distance — are produced by a mechanism that…
Partner and family dynamics have a surface level — the specific behaviors, the specific relationships, the specific dynamics that are visible. Beneath that surface…
When you look at a large enough sample of people working on partner and family dynamics patterns, certain patterns in the patterns become visible.…
I had been approaching my closest relationships the way I had been taught: with communication skills, with emotional intelligence, with presence and attunement. I…
The standard advice in relational self-help — “know your limits,” “communicate your needs,” “stop being a people pleaser,” “learn to say no” — is…
The experience of feeling more triggered in relational contexts now than in the past is usually one of two things: a sign of progress,…
Progress in relational pattern work has a characteristic rhythm: movement, plateau, movement again. Understanding the plateau is as important as understanding the movement.
The first part addressed how intelligence creates specific obstacles in relational pattern work. This part addresses what smart people can do that uses their…