Why Do I Keep Getting in My Own Way in My Business?
Q: I know I’m getting in my own way. I can see it happening. But knowing doesn’t seem to stop it. What’s actually going…
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Q: I know I’m getting in my own way. I can see it happening. But knowing doesn’t seem to stop it. What’s actually going…
She had started the pattern work expecting it to be done in six months.
She had been teaching about self-sabotage patterns for three years before she found her own.
She thought of herself as analytical. Her work was strategy — systems, frameworks, operational design. She was comfortable with data and uncomfortable with what…
He had a spreadsheet he updated monthly. It tracked revenue, client count, average project value, and the number of pricing conversations that had resulted…
She had been doing the work for fourteen months when she decided it wasn’t working.
Each increase was modest. Each was carefully justified — to himself and to prospective clients — by improvements in his methodology, by testimonial results,…
The official position was that she had one rate, with occasional flexibility for genuine financial hardship. In practice, what she noticed — once she…
By the time he found the somatic threshold work, he had read everything.
There was a pattern she had noticed but didn’t have a name for.
The protective function is what the self-sabotage pattern is actually doing — the specific threat it is preventing through its behavioral expressions. Understanding the…
The belonging-expansion conflict is the central organizing structure of a significant category of self-sabotage patterns. It describes the nervous system’s prediction that expansion —…