How One Coach Transformed Her Relationship With Money Blocks and Limiting Beliefs

Note: This is an illustrative composite drawn from patterns common in conscious business. It does not represent a specific individual.

She was not lacking in motivation. She had been working on her money blocks for three years with what she described as “urgent frustration” — determined to get past them, frustrated when they returned, treating every reappearance as a failure. The income had moved from $38,000 to $51,000, which was progress, but the work felt like combat and the blocks kept returning in new forms.

Her description of the work: “I clear one and another shows up. It feels like playing whack-a-mole with my own psychology.”

What the Adversarial Relationship Was Doing

Why adversarial approaches entrench blocks is structural: a block is a protection system. When the practitioner approaches the block as an enemy to be defeated, the protection system strengthens. The urgency and frustration that she was bringing to the work was being registered by the nervous system as threat — which was activating the very protective mechanisms she was trying to dismantle.

The questions that revealed her relationship to the blocks made this visible: when she thought about her money blocks, the primary feeling was frustration. She approached them as enemies to be defeated. When they ran — when the discount happened, when the avoidance occurred — her immediate response was self-blame. She had no patience with the process; she expected linear rapid change and experienced the actual nonlinear process as failure.

How the relationship to blocks shapes the work is through direct effect on whether the blocks can be worked with or whether they remain defended. She was in the relationship most likely to produce defended, entrenched blocks.

The Shift in Relationship

The starting point was simple and disorienting: she was asked to approach the next block not as a problem to be solved but as a pattern to be curious about. Not “why can’t I get past this?” but “what is this doing? What is it protecting? When did it form? What did it make sense to do when it formed?”

This wasn’t comfortable. The curiosity felt passive, like not taking the problem seriously enough. She had been in problem-solving mode for three years and curiosity felt like giving up.

The first time she caught the discount reflex running — the automatic impulse to drop her rate when a potential client expressed uncertainty — instead of being frustrated, she sat with it. “What just happened there?” The impulse had arrived before any thought, before she had assessed whether the client genuinely needed a lower rate. The body had moved first. She noticed that without judgment.

This noticing, practised over weeks, produced something unexpected: she began to recognise the block’s logic rather than just its inconvenience. The discount reflex had formed during a period when she’d lost several clients who had given rate-sensitivity as their reason. Her nervous system had learned: drop the rate before they leave. That learning had been intelligent. It had outlived its usefulness, but it had made sense.

What Changed

How the relationship to blocks shapes the work is through this: curiosity creates the reflective distance that allows the block to be examined. Frustration collapses that distance — the block and the self merge, and the self-blame that follows makes the system more defended.

When she shifted to curiosity, the starting point for the shift was no longer “what’s wrong with me?” but “what is this pattern, and what does it need from me?” The blocks didn’t disappear. They became workable — patterns that could be examined, that could be understood, that could gradually update with accumulated evidence and new experience.

Her income moved to $79,000 in the 14 months following the relational shift — not because the blocks disappeared, but because she stopped activating their defences. What money blocks are responds to curiosity in ways that it doesn’t respond to combat.

The Abundance GPS Skool community works with David Cameron Gikandi on the relationship to money blocks as primary work — because the quality of that relationship determines whether the techniques actually reach what they’re aimed at. Join us here.