We have all heard of sayings such as “birds of a feather flock together”, and we all understand the influence of peer pressure.
So we all know that other people have an influence on us. And we have an influence on other people.
That is not in doubt. Everyone knows that.
But to what extent does this influence go?
Well, this is where we open our eyes wider and understand just how strongly society actually reinforces our own individual ego, in the most “innocent” ways!
Let’s examine this quote from the book “In the World but Not of It”, by Gina Lake, which summarises this socialisation effect very well:
“Egos activate your own ego and that other people’s egos will try to pull you into their state of consciousness. Egos can’t help doing this. But you can help yourself stay in Presence by remaining conscious and aware while speaking and interacting with others.
[Here are ] some of the things [other people’s] egos do to draw you into their world:
– Egos state an opinion to elicit an opinion from you, and then the debate is on!
– Egos need to be right, and for that, an opinion is needed. Opinions are also good for stirring up emotions and creating drama, which egos also love.
– Egos tell stories about what happened to them because those stories and the emotions they stir up give them a sense of identity:
– Egos complain. Sharing likes and dislikes is a favourite pastime of egos: This passes as camaraderie, but what it really does is shore up the sense of “I.” Now you have taken a stand. Now you are somebody.
– Egos judge others. Egos love to talk about others, often under the guise of sharing information and insights or trying to understand or fix other people. However, within such conversations is generally an agenda on the part of the egos to prove themselves right and superior to others.
– Egos love to give unsolicited advice. Advice is often a type of opinion and serves to position the one giving the advice as right or superior.
Any judgment you have around these things is just more ego to be noticed and have compassion for. Others are the way they are, and in that moment, they can be no other way than that. The same goes for you as well. The best approach for dealing with egoic communications is to listen quietly without chiming in with your own opinions, judgments, advice, stories, or complaints. Just notice what’s being spoken without identifying with it, without agreeing or disagreeing with it. When you’re noticing from a place of neutrality, equanimity, and compassion, you know you are in Presence.”
Another thing egos do is to form tribes.
Tribes can be any group of people that share a common “group ego”. For example, a family is a tribe, a nation is a tribe, a street gang is a tribe, a company is a tribe, a church is a tribe, and even modern society as a whole is one large tribe…
Tribes are a function of survival. Safety in numbers. They are also a tool for keeping society in check.
Tribes bring people together, with a common bond, and in exchange for strength and safety as a group, tribes demand compliance to the groups accepted code of behaviour.
Sometimes tribes are positive, sometimes they are negative. For example, anyone who comes from an alcoholic family knows very well how the members of the family punish or ridicule any member that wishes to stop the alcoholic lifestyle – they often treat the recoverer as a traitor of sorts.
Or take fashion, for example. If you don’t dress up in the latest fashion, or in the style of clothes “your people” expect, the tribe confronts you about it or somehow punishes you for this divergence.
If you are a Christian and decide to change to Islam, or you are a Muslim and decide to change to Christianity, your tribe usually doesn’t approve.
For better or worse, consciously or subconsciously, tribes attempt to kill the divine sovereignty inherent in a person, and replace it with socialised conditioning.
Socialised conditioning makes you feel like you are going crazy whenever you have independent thought. It makes you feel bad, guilty, for exercising your divine sovereignty.
Tribes are a function of the Root Chakra, the first chakra.
Let us examine the issues powered by this chakra, which include:
– Ability to ground and manifest ideas into physical world
– Providing and supporting yourself
– Relationship to the material world, grounding
– Family and social safety and security
– Acceptance by peers, family, or the immediate or global community
– Standing up for oneself as an individual or community
– Social bonds, equality, belonging and order
And now let us examine what causes dysfunction in this chakra, and the effects of such dysfunction:
-Any violation of the principle that we are all One
-Rejection by peers, family, or the immediate or global community
-Inability to or fear of providing for and supporting yourself
-Feeling that you are alone in this world and cannot find help and support
-Feeling helpless and abandoned
-Feeling insecure and threatened
-Inability to manifest dreams and ideas
-Any type of lack of honour of family and society as a whole
-Feeling you don’t belong
As you can see from the above, consciousness as physics, it has order and structure.
Socialisation is structured in the root chakra, the lowest major chakra within the body.
And it powers the above challenges, challenges that face human beings everywhere.
Only through spiritual development and building your inner strength can you transcend this aspect of the ego, the aspect that is literally strengthened by the Social Matrix.
When you choose to free your mind and find your truth, you often discover that society and family is against that choice.
And that scares you.
You wonder if you are going crazy, or if you will survive, or if they will be hurt by your choice, or if you will lose them, or if they will hurt you, or if this makes you a disloyal traitor of some kind.
This is the root chakra. And it is normal.
It is simply part of the challenge in the Game of Life.
Don’t let it stop you.
Handle it with compassion and grace, within strength and integrity, and without judgement.
Let us now further examine socialisation, for in knowing how it works, we can better witness the ego as it attempts to manipulate our divine sovereignty.
A tribe can be considered as a group of people who share a similar frequency of conditioning, and the fear of disobeying this conditioning.
Through interaction with other people who share the same lower frequency of fear and conditioning, this “system” generates the “pressure of society”.
We sometimes call this “peer pressure” – and it applies to everyone, not just teenagers. Everyone, at all ages.
It is the pressure to comply to society.
This level of socialisation creates the corrupted habitual metal preoccupation that we see in our society and that we feel a pressure to comply with in our heads through the voice in our head.
Socialisation is a formatted pressure structure that survives by living through you and all other people you interact with in your society, creating inter-connective compliance to inter-connective pre-occupational activity that is deemed normal, yet is usually meaningless.
Collective compliance to an inter-connected, socially-reinforced, narrow and closed system of rewards and punishment.
In short, you feel pressured to do what your society is doing, even if its bullshit.
Or put in another way, we feel pressured to give away our divine sovereignty in exchange for the security of being accepted, which, as we eventually find out, is really not true security at all.
This structure drains our energy, literally.
That energy is consumed by the shadow aspect of duality, by fear.
And you can feel it, because every time you are in fear, you feel weak and drained, don’t you?
And you can see the strategy being played out in our society, whereby we seem addicted to fear, and we are fed fear, in media, in entertainment, in games, and so on.
Yet, the good news is that at the end of the day, when all is said and done, this system relies on our thoughts for its existence.
The internal dialogue, the voice in your head, built upon years of social conditioning, provides this groundwork of thought on which it needs to exist.
It is like a constant nagging that has replaced the silent witness, Presence.
This system needs two things to stay alive: our fearful thoughts, and their repetition.
That is the engine.
That is why there is that voice in your head and why, instead of telling you awesome loving things about you, your neighbour, and your world, it tells you fearful or limiting things about you, your neighbour, and your world.
That is it’s purpose in this structure, to maintain itself through repetitive fearful thoughts.
There is a hidden agenda behind that thought-stream, as you can see.
It isn’t just there by random chance. It is by design, for a purpose.
Now, when you interact with yourself or with others from a place of falsehood instead of truth, you simply maintain this structure, again.
So here we can see that we need to avoid socialising from a place of negativity such as gossiping, character assassination, drama and attack, and so on – avoid that like the plague!
Avoid socialising from a place of negativity like you would avoid the plague!
As these only serve to strengthen your own enslavement within the shadow’s dream, the unconscious ego.
Literally, do unto others as you would like done unto you. The Golden Rule.
This is advise that is designed for your own good, not so that you can die and go to heaven or something, but so that you can become free while here on Earth, free from the unconscious ego.
The truth shall set you free.
Freedom doesn’t come from compliance with socialisation, it comes from truth.
That was a sample taken from the course, Radical Mindfulness Made Simple in 5 Easy Steps.