Twenty years of field notes.

High-functioning people tend to approach inner child wounds the same way they approach everything else that needs solving: with competence, effort, and the expectation…

The books describe something. Your experience is something else. And you’ve spent time wondering whether the gap means the books are wrong, or whether…

You have the understanding. You’ve had it for a while. And the understanding, as deep and accurate and hard-won as it is, doesn’t seem…

There’s a dimension of avoidance in inner child work that doesn’t get discussed often: the avoidance that’s protecting not the pain of the wound,…

You’ve done real work. The understanding is there. The narrative is coherent. You can speak about the wound with clarity and even compassion. And…

There’s a specific version of this stuckness that has nothing to do with technique, understanding, or effort. It has to do with the quality…

There’s a version of this question about the inner child wound that’s really asking: why does my experience feel like standing still? Not the…

You started the work. You committed to looking at the wound, engaging with it, bringing awareness to it. And something got harder. The very…

In spaces where people talk about inner child work, there are two kinds of conversation: the one people have publicly, and the one they…

You’ve tried what they recommend. The letter to your younger self. The visualization. The reparenting practice. The affirmations addressed to the inner child. And…

Before you started working on this, the wound was there — but it had a certain quality of being managed. Contained. Not fully in…

You’ve noticed the pattern. The work moves — sometimes significantly — and then arrives somewhere that doesn’t. The same threshold. The same resistance. The…